Robert A. Heinlein, Stranger in a Strange Land Everyone who feels that it is fine to be jealous in a relationship should definitely be reading this. Being possessive of your significant other is not too bad we say, but constant pangs of jealousy are indeed not healthy for any relationship.
The first step towards beating jealousy pangs is to acknowledge that "Yes, I am jealous!" It is important for you to understand that jealousy is a powerful emotion. This feeling is capable of draining you and your partner. Do not let your Mr. Right or Ms. Perfect get away from you just because of your 'jealousy'. The clouds of such pangs must be dispelled, and here is how you can do that.
#1 Pump up your confidence Most jealousy pangs happen when you feel insecure about yourself in some way or another. You don't have to duck down and drown your individuality because you feel there is someone better around your partner who makes a potentially great match with them. Your partner is in a relationship with you because there must be an indefinable quality that makes you stand out in the pool of people he or she is surrounded with. So, stop trying to punish yourself, and give your self-esteem a much needed boost.
#2 Don't nag If you keep questioning your partner about their whereabouts they will naturally feel insulted. Have faith in your partner unless you have evidence to prove otherwise. Constant nagging will only cause a build-up of frustration in your partner's mind. At the end, they might not even feel accountable to you. It is a big reason that would end up creating a rift between the two of you.
#3 Give space to your partner Space is an important aspect of any relationship. The more you cling on to jealousy, the more destructive it will become for both of you. If your partner wants to spend the weekend with his friends, let them. Why would you want to leash them to yourself? Won't you like to go out with your friends and catch up? Every partner needs their breathing space for the relationship to flourish.
#4 Be yourself Don't mull over, and stop questioning why they love you. Be who you are and take time out for yourself. Indulge in your favourite sport, pursue a hobby, or go out with your friends every once in a while. Remember, you must not weave your life around that one person and do not let them overpower your sense of being. Stop asking yourself, what would you do without them because before they entered your life you were living a certain way. Once you come at peace with yourself, you will find peace in your relationship too.
#5 Don't let the past take over Is it because you have been cheated on before that you find your trust shaken every time you see someone else hovering around your partner? Once the trust is broken it is difficult to trust someone else again. But, do not judge your current relationship with the past circling through your mind. If you do feel insecure because of your past experience, then do talk to your partner openly and freely. Don't Miss: Signs that He is NOT the Right One
#6 Talk about it! Yes, nothing can help your relationship than a heart to heart talk. If you feel that your sweetheart is behaving a little different than the usual, then instead of jumping to the trust issues, try talking to them and get some clarity. What can be better than getting things out in the open? Isn't this much better than punishing yourself or nagging your partner over and over again?
#7 Reconnect with you partner! Spend some time rebuilding your bond with your sweetheart. Once a relationship gets into the 'comfort zone', we often start taking things for granted. This is the time when insecurity, jealousy and distrust enter your relationship. Make efforts to reconnect with your partner, spend some quality time with them and get your relationship out of that 'stagnant' phase.
#8 Trust We are sure, you might have been looking for this point at the top; but believe us, it all ends with trust. Yes, you have to trust your partner and your relationship. There might be a situation where you see your sweetheart being friendly with someone else or might find someone else flirting with your lover, at that time tell yourself that you trust your partner. If you don't have any concrete proof to distrust your partner, be assured your jealousy pangs will just make them run the other way for sure!
